He came to me with a complaint. His face was open and needy. “I want to be spiritual but do not know how. I really want to learn. Teach me! I watch you daven and I know you are talking to God. I see it in your face. I want that too. How do I get there? I look in the siddur and read but it does nothing for rme”
Rebbe Nachman knew. Long ago he said, “When I speak with someone I want to hear the highest words from his mouth.”
When someone would speak to him Rebbe Nachman would intensely listen to each uttered word. They were intentional. Nachman knew that in each dialogue there were hidden gems that had the potential of changing his life. Imagine such a thought!
It was not what the person said but what Rebbe Nachman heard that made the ultimate difference. Every word contained the kernels of personal revelation. His sole task was to listen.
“This,” I said to my complainant, “is the principle of true davenning. It is all about listening, being awake and aware and, of course, truthful with our words.”
The words we hear and the ones we speak can have a dramatic effect on us spiritually. If we are looking for voices of growth and learning they will appear almost everywhere.
This is the primary principle of davenning: Listen. Take the words you hear to heart. Open you soul and listen. They will be talking not only to you but for you. The people whom we meet are our teachers. All of them. The wise, poor, homely, distraught and unlettered all have profound teachings...if we are expecting them to utter wisdom.
At the same time, speak each word with intentionality, kavannah. Kavannah elevates each word to the realm of the holy.
This is the whole secret to becoming a spiritual being.